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Entering a Second Marriage?

Better get that prenuptial agreement.

Entering a Second Marriage?

German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche said of marriage, “It is not the lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” Albert Einstein said of marriage, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”

Marriage is supposed to be a divine moment that begins with so many good, sincere and loving things to say about each other and the euphoric intent of spending the rest of your lives together in wedded bliss. The church believes that all marriages are made in heaven, but then, so are thunder and lightning. The unfortunate reality is that marriage can become the most advanced form of warfare whereby, according to most statistics, about 50 percent end in divorce. It is something to give you pause if you are bringing a lot of assets and property to the marriage and even greater pause if it is your second or third marriage and you have children or substantial assets from a prior marriage.

Although 13 states have common law statutes, all 50 states have marriage contracts. Simply said, a marriage contract is an agreement between two individuals who agree to love and trust each another until death do they part. Unfortunately, when the trust is broken and divorce is inevitable, it gives courts the mechanism to enforce emotional and equitable fairness. So if most couples are happy and satisfied to sign a marriage contract, what is their fear of signing a prenuptial agreement, or prenup? The purpose of a prenup is typically to prevent assets or individually owned property from ever becoming marital property.

Unlike a marriage contract, which characterizes all of the blissful, loving, and joyful decisions to marry, a prenup often feels more like a painful thorn in the side of one or both partners. Basically, a prenup states, “Although I love you unconditionally, our love is conditional, and if we divorce, what’s mine shall remain only mine and only what we acquire during marriage is ours.” It may sound harsh but consider the following example.

Four years following the divorce from her first husband, Alice fell head over heels in love with Joseph and they decided to marry. She brought to their marriage two minor children from her first marriage, a successful career and $650,000 in assets that included a furnished home, a substantial 401k and IRA, a luxury car and bank accounts. Joseph brought to the marriage only a decent job and his undying love for Alice and her children. It was no surprise to Joseph when Alice asked him to sign a prenuptial agreement.

Whether you are contemplating your first, second or third marriage, if you are bringing a substantial amount of property and assets into it, you should discuss your estate with both your fiancée and an estate planning attorney before you say “I do”.

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